So many thoughts and feelings, and experiences have been swimming around in my head. I recognise confusion en masse and I don't like it. So how do we deal with our confusion? There are times when we need to compartmentalise them (nice word)! In a nut shell, in a filing cabinet, in a suitcase, in a draw; these are the items that cause confusion that we ruminate over, and the rumination can lead to a headache.
Above my laptop on my desk back wall I have notices of information; a therapeutic task for clients, a Bible verse on card, two outcomes guide for teaching, a declaration of God's word on my life, from Jeremiah 29:11-13, and other relevant, legal and educational information. From time to time I look at them, and rest a while, recognising that they are all relevant, and hold their place somewhere in my plethora of my busy days. They are all securely kept there, with a variety of magnets collected from home and abroad, as a bold reminder of what I should do, when, and with whom, and why. The most important notice however is my "To do List" of all the other's that is the one, that is frequently visited and updated in the compartment in which I have placed it. It lives at the top right hand corner of my desk, because being right handed, when I look up, I am automatically drawn to it.
I read what I have listed, I tick off what I have achieved, and I add what I need to do. That helps with the confusion. It's not just that what it does only, but also helps with clarity, and gives me a sense of fulfillment, that although my desk wall is busy, I do not have to feel that busyness, because I have ordered my plans. This reduces stress and the need to keep going through my notices, and checking if I have addressed this or that; I look at my list, and it tells me that I have done it, or that I need to do it.
Of course there are those of us whom I believe like confusion, and chaos. I recall studying with a fellow student, who kept a very untidy folder. In our small study group of four, she was asked by the teacher to locate a relevant piece of work. As she leafed through her folder, I watched in anxiety as loose leaves fell out and crumpled papers appeared between neat pockets, or torn pieces of work. I felt embarrassed for her, but her candid comment when asked about her chaotic folder was, "I like the disorganised folder, it makes me feel as though I am studying something really important" She continued to search! How she was able to equate the two remains a mystery to me.
Maintaining an organised existence helps us to chart our progress, reduces stress in our lives, can help reduce the feelings of depression, and gives us a sense of purpose. We can see the results of our plans at a glance. In my work as an Integrative Therapist, there are times when a client will need a little direction in what they should do, to reduce their confusion. CBT is good for this, (Cognitive Behaviour Therapy). Once such client sat before me, a young woman in her early twenties who had recently become unemployed. Her days were unfulfilled, and she had temporarily lost a sense of purpose. When exploring her days activities, she saw little to do, there was plenty she could do.(That's what I saw), my job was to enable her to see it. For a while we sat and talked, her responses reflected both the confusion she felt, and the emptiness she was experiencing. So we began to work on compartmentalising her day, organising and giving her a sense of purpose, making a pictorial list with achievable and realistic outcomes. By the end of the session her whole demeanour had changed and she shared the excitement of using her IT skills for creativity of her 'list'.
So let's not kid ourselves, confusion is not good, disorganisation and chaos is not healthy, and living without a sense of purpose does not build character. I agree wholeheartedly with the verse in the Bible that speaks of Our Father God as not being the Author of confusion (1st Corinthians 14:33). He set a blue print for us to follow, can you imagine if He had given us the task of making the earth? Wow! or worse still, making Us?
Think about it. Look in to your life, and ask yourself, what can I compartmentalise? what lists can I make? what plans for the week can I realistically put in place. Begin to do this and you will begin to see results that you may have felt you could not achieve.